Menopause can be a delicate time. A woman’s hormones are changing, and she may be experiencing a range of emotional and physical symptoms. As her partner, you can help. Research shows that if you take the time to understand and learn about menopause, you’ll be better able to emotionally support your partner through this important transition in her life. Here’s how.
Your knowledge can make a big difference to how you both cope during this time. The more you know about the symptoms of menopause, the better equipped you will be to help her through them.
The hormonal changes during menopause can impact the way your partner thinks and feels, and that's before we get into the physical symptoms.
A good place to start is by reading this article: what you need to know about menopause.
Asking your partner about what she’s experiencing shows that you are there to support her, whatever her mood. Your support can improve your partner’s wellbeing and help her cope with the symptoms.
Your partner’s menopausal symptoms affect you too. Make sure she knows that you are trying to understand, and that you’re in it together.
Menopause doesn’t last forever and eventually the symptoms will subside. But if you think the symptoms of menopause are affecting your partner’s daily life, you might want to suggest that she talks to her doctor. Her doctor can consider the different symptoms she is experiencing, her age and overall health – and then talk with her about a menopause treatment to suit her individual needs.
“I don’t want sex” doesn’t mean she doesn’t want you.
Remember that love and sex aren’t just about intercourse; there’s far more to it than that. Think back to your teenage years, where just a glance from that certain girl, or a brush of your hands had you excited. Try and broaden your sense of romance at this stage of life with intimate dinners and good conversation.
Try some different forms of intimacy – kissing, touching and stroking. Or even oral sex. They are all great ways to arouse your partner (and you), and can help you both feel the love. Also work on your foreplay – your partner will love it, and you, for it.
Your partner is not the only one getting older. For older men, heart disease and high blood pressure can be a problem, as well as bladder cancer, and problems with your prostate.
Use your partner’s menopause as a reminder to create healthy lifestyle habits that will serve you both well into the future. Do you need to increase your physical activity? Perhaps explore your local neighbourhood by going for morning walks or sunset strolls together. Or take up a new type of exercise or sport: golf, bush-walking, pilates, or dancing, for example.
And think about your diet. Are you eating a diet that’s high in fruits and vegetables and low in sugars and processed foods? Sign up for a healthy cooking class together and be inspired to include more veggies, legumes and wholegrains into your everyday eating.
The key to being the partner of a menopausal woman’s dreams is to be there (with her and for her), be flexible and be understanding.
Remember, you’re in this together. Think of this time as an opportunity to bring the two of you even closer together: to try some things you have never tried before, to show her you are doing your best to understand, and that you are there for her no matter what.
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